5 Reasons Why Women Are Single....

So I just got off the phone with another one of my girlfriends complaining about why she is single. She is beautiful, intelligent, has a great career, fun, sexy and very loyal but she like many other women I know are living what they call the dreadful “Single Life”. So I have decided to write about this topic, after having endless conversations with them, the same topic over and over there has got to be reasons why. I love my girlfriends they are the rainbow coalition of their time coming from all parts of the world, various ages, educational backgrounds, professional fields, some have plenty of money, some are on the come up and some are just getting started, they are all so very different and unique in their own way. The one thing that levels the playing field for them all is Love; finding it and keeping it. I hope that this will help some of them if not all of them understand why some men run, or turn away from love. It only takes a minute to destroy what you’ve took a life time to build.
The questions I get asked the most is: “Why on earth am I still single? Why am I not in a loving and committed relationship? A multitude of things run through my mind as I hear these questions, and then I hear the reasons or excuses of why they feel they are single. Like for example the worst one I’ve heard is, there are no good men left and that is absurd, there are plenty of great men out there but first as a woman take the time to understand what it is you are looking for in a potential mate. Many women do not know what they want but because they believe that men are scarce they are willing to take what they can get. Don’t fall for this, I know there are good men out there, I meet them every day. The key is knowing if they are good for you. We, as women often voice what we feel we want and need in a man but once that man is placed right in front of us we stutter step and the man moves on. Take a second look at the man that passes you by, just because he doesn’t come in the right packaging we were hoping for, doesn’t mean that he isn’t a good man. Stop pre-judging them remember men are just as nervous when it comes to dating as we are. I have come up with 5 of the top reasons why beautiful, educated, successful and loving women are still single, I am doing this in stages, so you can hear what I am saying digest it and hopefully take what you NEED from it and APPLY it to your daily life. All of this may not apply to you but you may be able to use some of it. So read and enjoy and feel free to comment and/or ask questions! Meeting a man is not the problem we meet men every day, it’s the decisions that we tend to make after meeting the man that plays the intricate role as to why we remain single…Ok here it goes:
Reason #1
The Speedy Gonzalez Syndrome:
My biggest annoyance when it comes to women is that they move entirely too fast, and quite basically you scare the hell out of the men who are genuinely interested in you. Women you CANNOT go from meeting a man to him becoming your man ALL in one fast swoop!!! When a man first meets you the first words out of your mouth SHOULD NOT be that you are looking for marriage, this man doesn’t want to hear that much less visualize himself tied down to someone he is just meeting and on a first date with. Keep those thoughts to yourself; you will be able to share them with him in time. When you look too far ahead you miss all the important stuff that goes in between meeting a man and him becoming your man, this part is called learning your man! Get to know your man, there is no reason for you to not know enough about the man you are interested in, talk to him get to know his interest so that you won’t be totally surprise months later. Slow it down so that he can actually see you, allow him to get to know you as well, let him be excited about wanting to learn more about you. Allow him to see your flaws and love you in spite of them. Women let him fall in love with you and not in lust, lust is very easy and it is often misidentified as love. Being physical with a man doesn’t imply that you two are in a committed relationship. You don’t have to be physical with a man unless it is something that you totally want to do and you are ready for the aftermath of it, especially if you haven’t built a foundation before you are intimate with this man. Because once an egg has been scrambled, you can’t unscramble it. Stay focus! Also you don’t have to coerce, force or trick him into a relationship. For the men who are always saying that they are not ready for a committed relationship, then maybe you should let them keep moving, because if he is ready for a physical relationship he needs to be ready for everything else. Don’t allow his tricks and games to draw out a sexual relationship only leaving you emotionally and mentally bruised. Love has no time limits: you cannot say that after 3, 6 or even 9 months that you should be at any particular level in a relationship because this is the getting to know you stages. (I’m not saying that it isn’t totally possible to meet a man and the both of you fall head over heels in love) I’m just saying for those of you who keep bouncing from one relationship to the next, or those of you who might be holding on to the wrong man, this may be a reason why. When women meet men we put them into categories, men do the same thing, what category you fall in will depend upon your actions. It is natural to be excited when meeting someone you feel has all the qualities that you want in a man, but please concentrate on your reaction, don’t allow what you are use too in other relationships determine the outcome of your next relationship. Stop worrying about titles, build a mutual and loving relationship with him and you will be a part of him.
You don’t have to move so fast!!! You will miss out looking so far ahead! Live in the moment! Enjoy It!