Co-Parenting

Co-Parenting:

When you sleep with someone and it results in a pregnancy ...both of you are responsible.  Men and women deciding to become parents even if you don't love one another, even if that's not your boyfriend/girlfriend...understand...that should not get in the way of raising a beautiful, healthy child who will contribute positively to society.  These are decisions that you made willingly...remember that!!!

Men...when a woman tells you she is pregnant and you know you've been smashing without any protection...stop acting all crazy...prepare your mind and communicate with the woman.  That is not to time to revert back into a lil boy.  You had an option to put on a condom, it's your dick...wrap it up!!! Even if she's not your girl or just some girl you had sex with for the first time and only one time...stop acting like you don't understand how things go down. Discuss your options and get a clear understanding of how the three of you are going forward.

Women: when you get pregnant by a man who you are just sleeping with and you guys are not in a relationship...stop romanticizing it....because the truth of the matter is that...you guys had sex and now you're pregnant...NOT...you guys had sex, you got pregnant and now you are a couple.  Communicate with this man so that he can be there with you through the pregnancy, delivery and the rest of the child's life.  Don't make it difficult for a man to be a father just because that man isn't your man.  Do you feel me?

As a child grows up whether you are with their mother or not, if you make a child feel love, care and support them as you should your relationship will be as it should.  A child will never forget how you treated their mother...and they will never respect you as a man if you are disrespectful to their mother.  You don't have to be together, you don't have to act as though you are all in love...if that is not the case...but as an adult, you should be mature enough to foster a positive relationship with the person who you gave your body to.  Get over yourself...
SMH...

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Pass them on!!!

You vs. The Economy

How are you fairing in this economy?  Are you making the best of your earnings?  Remember to pay yourself first by participating in your company's retirement plan (401k, etc.), transit deductions and health care incentives that are taken out of your earnings pre-tax.  Research the best way to make what you earn work for you and your family.  As the tax season is upon us, be mindful to SAVE some of that money, don't let it burn your pockets...put it in a CD, research which bank offers the best rates.   Check your W-2's to ensure that you are making the right allocations.  Know what tax brackets you are in to ensure the right amount of taxes are coming out of your earning.  Consult an accountant or your HR department for help.  Invest in stocks, once again you must do your own research.  Help and pay yourself first!!!

MONEY TIP: If you can not put more money into your retirement plan, commit to a certain amount that you will save every pay period.  Once you get to $1,000 research CD's.  (Stack and be consistent)

Questions while dating?

What are the major questions that need to be discussed before getting into a serious relationship?  And when should they be discussed?  If you are just dating do you feel obligated to tell them your secrets or do you feel that the length of time you are together determines how much you tell them?

Are you afraid of asking the really hared questions or do you get so caught up in the moment that you allow them to get away from you.  Let's chat?

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MONEY OVER EVERYTHING!

Hello my good people...

I want to talk to you today about money...yes, the root of all evil.  Or is it? We all want it and most would do anything to obtain it.  My question to you, guys and gals, Does it matter who is the breadwinner in the relationship?  Men, is it a problem when your woman makes more money than you? Women, are you able to be with a man if he makes less money than you?  Ladies could you have a stay at home dad?  It is said that money can destroy relationships, I say if you are open and honest about how you really feel about money and can agree on some basic principles...you can get pass those money issues!!! Let's talk about it. 

"BREAK" BABIES!

Good Morning,
So there seems to be a trend going on amongst a few celebrities....Dwayne Wade reportedly had a baby with his side chick while apparently on a "break" from Gabrielle Union.  Ludacris just announced the birth of his child with his side chick while on a "break" from his main chick, Eudoxie.  How would you feel if you and your man/woman separated for a few weeks or a month or two and after you made amends and got back together....they dropped the bomb that a baby had been conceived during that brief moment. Would you forgive and keep your relationship or would you end it? Please note that they most likely had unprotected sex which is endangering not only the relationship but your life.  What would you do? Let's talk.

WHO ARE YOU???

WHO ARE YOU?

Hello…I’m back…

Life has been such a learning experience for me over the past year and 7 months, I have learned to give more, love more, understand and empathize more.  I am no longer that selfish, immature woman who let outside circumstances command her life.  I now face things head on and not run from them no matter how uncomfortable they are.  My journey is not over it has barely begun, with all that I have learned, I will be the first to admit that I need and want to learn more about me as a person, as a woman, mother, daughter, grandmother, and friend.   There is so much more to me than I’ve allowed you to see I am on a “Vision Quest” if you may.  How many of you are ready to take a great look at yourself not to criticize or to brow beat but to encourage, to uplift yourself and to experience self-growth?

I was asked a very potent question today, "Who are you?  Beyond being a mother, a daughter or friend, who are you?"  Have you ever been asked that dreadful question and everything in your mind seems to run or scatter?  That's exactly how I felt.  I essentially know who I am, but other than providing for my family and socializing with my friends...who really am I?  I am a quiet and sometimes shy person who has always been a loner, I am a social butterfly who wings expand beautifully when I’m in the mix at gatherings.  I am a writer who can easily express herself through words, I am a procrastinator with big ideas that sometimes fall to the wayside because I allow life to get in the way.  I am God's helper, I believe that I am here to help others...and I'm still trying to figure out in which capacity I should be of help.  I am not the same person who I thought I was a year ago or even 3 months ago, by allowing myself to be venerable to others I have been disappointed, hurt and sometimes discourage but I learned that by opening up myself to those feelings I love more, I feel more, I cherish life more.  I wish I could say that I was passed all my youthful flaws but I still have some with me, some of theme are very easily dealt with but others such as sharing my love with others is harder yet it becomes better as I learn more and more about him and me.   Who am I to stifle love? I must learn to practice what I preach when it comes to my personal life.  I’m not there yet and I may not be there in the next month but I’m working on me.  I’m ready for this journey and the things life has in store.  I’m planning to share my journey with you and hope that you will in turn share yours with me. 

Let’s gooooo!!!