Good Morning,
So there seems to be a trend going on amongst a few celebrities....Dwayne Wade reportedly had a baby with his side chick while apparently on a "break" from Gabrielle Union. Ludacris just announced the birth of his child with his side chick while on a "break" from his main chick, Eudoxie. How would you feel if you and your man/woman separated for a few weeks or a month or two and after you made amends and got back together....they dropped the bomb that a baby had been conceived during that brief moment. Would you forgive and keep your relationship or would you end it? Please note that they most likely had unprotected sex which is endangering not only the relationship but your life. What would you do? Let's talk.
It's interesting...maybe just maybe people never really break in these instances. And let me explain...if my mate and I break up for a brief period of time, let's say less than 6 months, and we get back together and now a baby comes along, me as a woman, personally would feel that you never disconnected from your ex. How can you love someone, not know if your future is completely over and just because we break up, you go back to your "ex" that quick and then reproduce a child .....Not to mention, not practicing safe sex. I would feel as though you never considered your future with me or you would not have been so careless to risk losing me forever that you would reproduce with someone else. The thought would forever linger in my mind if you were ever completely over that "ex" or if you ever really loved me. Now, you are forever tied to your "ex." Many of us are with partners who have children from previous relationships and as adults we all get along and know that neither party is interested in revisiting the past, but something about this off and on again, in between break business that I just can't get with. Me, personally, I have a rule, an "ex" is an ex for a reason and there should be no double dipping...if you are double dipping, I think you have always had a hand in the cookie jar! I don't think I could successfully have a relationship with someone who reproduced with someone while we were on a "break." I guess that's why I feel once you break up, it's over.
ReplyDeleteI agree...once it's over it's over...I'm not reverting back to that...we are not together for a reason. I myself can get along with the ex- especially when children are involved. I know each situation is different but I don't feel you need to be constantly texting and communicating throughout the days with an ex if it's not about the kids. Check on your kids, make sure all is well and keep it moving. All this let's stay connect and friends always ends up resorting in some kind of mishap...I for one do not want to hear it just happen...because you had a choice and if that happens you better stay there...
ReplyDeleteSecret lives of poly men....i heard a comedian say that DWade's "side chick" is actually his other woman...who he has been connected to even while married...making Gabrielle the true "side chick". Things that make me go..
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I cant call it though. I dont get Ms Union's position...Mr Wade must drive a hard bargain for her to stay.
The thought that a man who says he loves me would lie with another woman as we do...would ruin our relationship and I could never look at him the same. When you love someone you don't ask them to live with your bad intentional choices. I know nobody is perfect and that we all make mistakes but not using protection is not a mistake it's a choice.
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